In most cases, long-term relationships probably won’t start over a smartphone app.
But apart from PTSD from one too many rattails, dating in Spain (or any foreign country)—however it’s initiated—can provide valuable insight, experiences, fun, and at the very least, some gut-wrenching laughter when you meet up with your girlfriends for a glass of wine post-date to recount how things went so horribly awry. Jenny Marshall studied Language, Culture, and Society at the University of California Santa Barbara, and now teaches English in Spain.
And also: Tinder sucks, drains your battery, is addicting, will consume all subsequent conversations with your single girlfriends, makes you realize the world is full of creeps, and you’ll judge yourself for using it—but it does help you meet people in a place that’s not known for its hug-giving locals. So after a very minimal study of dating in Spain, here are 5 common practices that American girls should—and must, to be successful—keep an open mind about when chatting up Spanish, and particularly Basque, hunks.
This is not a source of shame; it is a fact of life.
(Keep in mind as a foreigner: Most likely they assume you live in your own apartment, since your parents are back home in the U. If a guy writes you soon after initiating a conversation, “Do you live alone? They wear fanny packs as enthusiastically as my parents.