It would be akin to saying that everything else being equal, the taller basketball player will win, so thus, no one can ever get good at basketball unless they’re tall. The fact is, looks DO matter, especially in an environment where the other party can’t initially see your wit, humor, confidence, etc.
Finally, you’ll see that since you can’t force people to write to you (since most men and women are chasing younger, more attractive people), ALL you can do is open up to others and improve the way you interact on your dating site. Looking at the pictures of their highly-rated and average males and females, I think I realized part of the problem.
Could it be that the responders to their questionnaires were rather young, and that’s why the “hottest” guys appear 18-20 while OK Cupid’s employees who look to be at least mid-20s were even considered semi-decent?
I’ll be the first to point out that I have a lot of inherent DISADVANTAGES when doing online dating. Without game OR looks, you’re going to have a lot of trouble with online dating.
I’m short, I’m Asian, I’m not traditionally attractive, and I’m certainly not rich. Though if we’re being honest, you’re probably going to have trouble with ANY kind of dating so it’s not that surprising that online dating would be similar.
In the online world, your competition isn’t particularly effective, but they do have immense .