In between friends and dating


It is important to remember that neither dating nor courtship is mandated in Scripture.

In the end, the Christian character and spiritual maturity of the couple is far more important than the exact nature of how and when they spend time together.

If a couple is never alone together, they never have that one-on-one opportunity to relate and get to know one another in emotional and spiritual intimacy.

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First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ.

The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not marry each other, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians -15).

It was while planning this vacation that it hit me: The two longest relationships of my life have both been with men who I was never officially dating.

Boyfriends and girlfriends have come and gone, but my friends with benefits have stood the test of time. That’s longer than I predict my first marriage will last.

So what is it about the friends with benefits dynamic that is more sustainable, and often more transparent, than an actual relationship? They’re like: How can you have sex with the same person, again and again, without falling in love?