Remember that your counterpart is likely to be as nervous as you though, even if they don’t look it!As a coach I listen a lot more than I talk, it’s the nature of what I do.
If you could go back in time, what would you want to change?
When was the last time you cried in front of someone else? What’s the right number of people to invite over a Friday night?
They even think that chatting in emails or on the phone isn’t so bad either but when it comes to actually going out on a date — the very reason they were online dating in the first place — this is where they panic. They worry they’ll get found out (whatever that means) or that they’ll get tongue-tied and have nothing to say.
They fear they aren’t interesting and will bore their date, hence make a fool of themselves. But let me tell you something: it’s just thoughts, and your thoughts aren’t facts.
A man and woman face each other across a table at a downtown bistro, looking nervous and awkward. There is a stiff formality to the way they sit—no slouching. It remains to be seen if it will pick up speed, gain altitude, and soar skyward . Sometimes they lead to burning love; sometimes they go down in flames.