I didn’t know how to go about entering the relationship.
I didn’t know what conversations to have with my new partner, what sort of problems would arise, and how to tackle them.
It’s important for those in a poly relationship to make their lovers feel wanted or needed – if someone sees their partner treating another one in a different way, this will naturally lead to feelings of inadequacy or jealousy.
The concept of being poly and loving multiple people can be compared to a parent having multiple children – a mother or father will love all of their children equally, and not have more love for one child than another.
Sian Ferguson is a Contributing Writer at Everyday Feminism and a queer, polyamorous, South African feminist who is currently studying towards a Bachelor of Arts majoring in English and Anthropology.