If she does not say as much IN A CLEAR AND AFFIRMATIVE WAY, leave her be. It's so damn hard to find the two-headed dragon of enthusiastic consent and availability.
What you guys have to go through when not getting head or being senators is truly terrible.
If she gives the incontrovertible thumbs-up, suggest something like vaguely cordial meeting for a drink. Not a handy or boudoir shots or anything like that.
If she doesn't want a drink and just wants to get straight to roleplaying "Foxcatcher" on your futon, she will say as much!
As a 29-year-old married woman who often engages in cybersex, says: When people feel trapped by their current circumstances, but still do not want to ruin their relationship, cyberspace may offer a parallel world in which things are better.