Forgive the friends and in-laws who you felt deserted you.
You survived that, and not only are you better for it – you’re sexier for it. Age and childbearing has allowed you to enjoy your body for all it has to offer. When I met my husband in my mid-twenties, I was still struggling to make my way professionally. When we do have time for boyfriends, we make the very most of it. There is less temptation to piddle away hours waiting on losers to commit just because you’re lonely (you will end up selling your engagement ring anyway with those guys).
That said, dating-with-child could also be a huge shortcut to weed out the jerks. Especially when you need someone to vent to or a sitter in a pinch. I really understand how it feels to face your shyness -- especially if you're brand new in town and walk into a playground where all the other moms already seem to know each other.
If he's supporting you when your baby spikes a fever in the middle of the night, it's a good preview to see how he responds in the midst of such reality. Watch for Red Flags You know what the red flags are: a guy who wants to know your whereabouts every minute of the day, someone who brings up marriage too soon, someone who has as an unsettled divorce or high unpaid debts, or someone with a quick temper. Before you know it, you'll develop this "single mom radar." Amazingly, you'll naturally start to spot other single moms at the park.
Especially the people you want to attract, aka awesome men.