Take the case of Megan and Frank.“Things came to a head when our daughter was born,” says Megan, who met and unwittingly married a sex addict in her late 20s.They’d been married about five years when she found out she was pregnant. “I knew I hadn’t been having sex with anyone else,” she recalls.The list of behaviors associated with a sexual addict is so mundane, practically anyone can tick off at least a couple. "If you’re married, your acceptable sexual behavior may be defined differently than if you’re single,” says Mike Weiss, a certified addiction therapist and founder of The Sexual Recovery Institute.
Our romantic culture generally consisted of hanging out with mates down the pub, doing some drinking, and then sort of somehow ending up with one of them and not really discussing the matter until six months in.
But with the ascent of online dating – which is reportedly now the way one in five relationships start – we have become a date-centric society, particularly in London where it seems that anyone who’s single is on Tinder.
When women talk to each other about dating, it often feels as though there’s an elephant in the room.
You skirt around it, you glance shyly at it, you might even squeeze past it to get to the snack table – but you’re never, ever, ever supposed to talk about it.
He doesn’t care how many partners you’ve had; it’s all in the past. To find out the answer, fall back to the fundamentals: identifying the addict is the first step. One-night stands, extra-marital affairs, GPS hook-ups, obsessive online dating.