----- As a coach, I encourage women to "know their brand" of femininity.
Bad pictures, poorly written profiles, and misleading information make it frustrating or annoying to sort effectively. If you want to be a man in your online dating profile and truly use the site(s) to attract the woman of your dreams, here are some suggestions. Yes, some idiot actually sent that to me as a text.
For example, the guy who "wants a relationship" but by all other factors in his profile is clearly looking for a hookup. Actually, even if you're on the site just to date, trust me, gentlemen, you'll have better results if you make these few minor adjustments: 1.
Yet true love also still eludes many of us involved in online dating. If we were out in the real world, you'd ask (I hope). Not because women who pole dance aren't marriage-minded, but because like it or not, we all have some social norms and stereotypes to which we ascribe.
One of the biggest advantages these sites supposedly offer is volume. Just because we're online doesn't mean the rules are different. (Like the fact that most men probably don't want to marry a woman whose pole-dancing pix are all over Zoosk). I'm going to make assumptions about your manhood (so to speak) from everything you do (or don't) do online.
Look, we do want to see your hot bod, but get a friend to take a few pix at the gym or a sporting event. We really don't want to think about what went on in there before or after you took the picture. Write more than a paragraph if you actually want a date. But if you check the box "wants a relationship" and then don't take the time and effort to write a decent profile, the message we receive is: "I'm looking for a hookup" and "I use love to get sex." Actually, that last part is giving you too much credit -- it would require self-awareness. Sure, it works at a party; we're face-to-face, making eye contact. Take off your sunglasses and let us see the real you. We're not in college anymore and this isn't a frat. Stop putting up pix of you with the gaggle of girls you were hanging out with during your drunken escapades. Hey, let's face it: You're the consistent factor in all your relationships. There's nothing worse than showing up and discovering that I can't even recognize you in the restaurant.