Steve reported that he once over-indulged in alcohol and drugs but that because of a serious accident on the job, he quit using substances.However, over the next several months, he found that his urges to masturbate increased.
For months after his wife declared that she was leaving, he found that his sexual fantasies and urges to masturbate were becoming more and more imperious.
He realized that if he did not masturbate, he would remain “horny” all day, which would make him feel restless, irritable and discontent.
He found comfort there, knowing that he was not the only person in the world who engaged in such sexual behaviors.
He felt supported and valued in a way he never had been before in his life. He began to feel that he could talk to people and that people could share with him.
Most importantly, he reported, he was learning how to be himself and to be comfortable with himself in social situations. We began to do a cost/benefit analysis of his sexual behavior.