Your own desire to heal is a powerful thing, and so is your solitude. To be fully present, you have to allow the time and space to exist on your own as you are - without the distraction or expectations of another person.
With the exception of the minority whose choices are clearly always self-destructive, the best way to work on recovering from bad breakups, as the research above indicates, is by actively pursuing new relationships, not withdrawal.
The connotation that comes with the term "slept with" was recently discussed amongst a group of my friends. The comparison is tempting, but believe me everyone is fighting their own battle.
I see Eve and the Brit and long for a man that makes me soft and keeps me soft.
Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists.
Or maybe your dating history consists only of brief flings and you don't know how to make a relationship last.
These expectations may be based on your family history, influence of your peer group, your past experiences, or even ideals portrayed in movies and TV shows. Wants include things like occupation, intellect, and physical attributes such as height, weight, and hair color.